The Discipline Years
0-5 years:
- You teach your child that their actions have consequences—both good and bad. You want them to obey so they’ll be safe, strengthening their obedience muscles through multiple reps and appropriate consequences.
- You can’t discipline for every single infraction, and you shouldn’t. So decide what specifically you will discipline for—such as disobedience, disrespect, and dishonesty—and be consistent.
- Use the words you’ve chosen—such as disrespect—when correcting and disciplining them. Similarly, praise and celebrate when they get it right. What is rewarded is repeated.
- Someone will discipline your kids. It can be you, starting early and being consistent while the stakes are lower, or it can be other authority figures—teachers, coaches, law enforcement, judges—down the road when the stakes are higher.